The Holy Family—so easy to marvel at and honor, so difficult to think of imitating. On the face of it, the family life of Jesus, Mary, ad Joseph seems too utterly unique to take as a odel for our flawed efforts at being parents and children. The virginal conception and divinity of the Child are enough to render the holy family apparently inimitable. And who anong us an hope for guidance in major decisions by way of angelic messages in dreams? And yet, I submit, this Sunday’s Scriptures do offer ways for us to relate the life of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph to our own.
When we think of Mary, Joseph, and the child Jesus in splendid, nuclear isolation, we forget two things. First, no family in first-century Palestine lived disconnected from their network of relatives. Second, and more important, their family life was lived as part of the larger family life of Israel’s covenant life with God.
The passage from Sirach demonstrates the way Israelite family life was considered an expression of covenant life. Each statement Sirach makes about living the parent-child relationships refers to what those relationships mean about one’s relationship with God. Indeed those relationships are described in liturgical terms. For example, “He who honors his father is gladdened by children, and when he prays he is heard” Or again, “He obeys the Lord who brings comfort to his mother.”
When Paul speaks of right relationships in Christian community and family life, he draws upon that same sense that these human relationships derive from that larger covenant relationship. “As the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do” “And let the peace of Christ control your hearts, the peace into which you were also called in our body.” That peace is the shalom of the covenant life lived faithfully and fully. It takes the whole covenant community to be a family. As we honor the Holy Family today, we can take their unique experience as a reminder of the covenant life with God in which all of our families can find encouragement. Just as Mary, Joseph and Jesus were not a family on their own, neither are we.